Here are some characteristics of REAL #love:
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1. Love means saying #goodbye
Sure, we all want people to behave the way we want them to. We want them to be more affectionate. Or more outgoing. Or smarter. Or more ambitious. All of these things are expectations. But true love has no expectations. It simply loves “as is.” 2. Love doesn’t play the #victim
role or #blame
Love doesn’t think others are “out to get them.” Love doesn’t think their loved ones are wrong. Love works #together
. It takes #responsibility
. It forgives and allows other people’s actions to be their #journey
. Love doesn’t take things personally.
3. Love includes letting go.
Love doesn’t equal #possession
. Just as the saying goes, “If you love something, set it free. If it comes back, it’s yours. If it doesn’t, then it never was.” There is truth to that. Love allows people their #freedom
. It doesn’t hold tightly and crush their wings in attempt to keep them. True love doesn’t want to possess. It is willing to set you free if you want to be.
4. Love doesn’t require you to continue a relationship.
You may love someone very much, but you may not be #compatible
with them. Or they may drive you crazy with their continued disregard for your feelings. You can still love them, but that doesn’t mean you have to be with them. Love doesn’t mean that you have to stay, and stay and stay. You can leave the relationship and love them anyway.
5. Love has no room for #jealousy
Like possession, jealousy doesn’t equal love. We think that if we’re not jealous of our loved ones that it means that we don’t love them. True love has #confidence
in the quality of the relationship. It knows that the other person is #happy
coming back to you and only you.
6. Love is the absence of #fear
You can put all emotions on a continuum. On one end, you have love. Then #appreciation
. After that, it’s #joy,
happiness, contentment and satisfaction. On the opposite end of the continuum of love is fear. Other fear-based emotions include, hatred, insecurity, jealousy or greed.
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